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I'm still single, dating still sucks and I'm starting to wonder: do I just make things more complicated than they need to be? Dating another Aboriginal person is tricky, because in a small region like the Kimberley, there's every chance we could be related. Yes, tall, dark and handsome still makes me go 'Mmm…', but the band Offspring didn't tell lies when they sang "pretty fly for a white guy".
But before I start getting jiggy with a vanilla slice, my thought bubble bursts and I catch myself thinking, is he attracted to black girls? And it's made me wonder — is it only women of colour who question their race when crushing on a white guy? I once flirted with a young man who was a pilot. He constantly asked if we could spend more time together. Later I found out that he'd been calling other Aboriginal people in the area 'boongs'. Learning this put me in a difficult spot. Was I an experiment? Did he think I was one of the 'good Aboriginals'?
Get our newsletter for the best of ABC Everyday each week. I've since learnt that some things aren't so easy to understand, especially when it comes to dating.
It's not like I can go to the library and read up on it, what would I even look for? One of my biggest fears when meeting a white fella is their potential lack of cultural awareness. These days when I'm considering dating a guy that's not Aboriginal, I have a shopping list of questions I'd like answered first:. Throughout history, Aboriginal women and many white women also have had to protect themselves from white men. In the words of Malcolm X: "The most disrespected person in America is the black woman".
Well damn! The same could be said for Australia. There's still a sense that Aboriginal women aren't as beautiful or deserving of love and respect than other women. This year an old clip of South African comedian Trevor Noah criticising the appearance of Aboriginal women surfaced — this man of colour was ridiculing us black women!
Also, there's a bunch of cringe-worthy sexual stereotypes to navigate. How dreadful to have to negotiate the saying, "Once you go black, you never go back". I recently spoke to a woman Koori dating sites colour about my dilemma.
I asked her if she would date a white man. Most couples will get to a point in their relationship when things start to get a bit more serious. It'll prompt different conversations, either it's shall we get a dog? Or should we move in together? But I'm dating someone who isn't Aboriginal, I dread other types of conversations because our whole relationship depends on how they pan out.
Expecting him to have all the right answers is unrealistic. But you can tell when someone means well and when they don't.
Ah, I'm kidding but it would cross my mind. But what I would do in this situation is keep the conversation going, to discover each other's perspectives. That said, there is limit to how many ignorant racist perspectives a person of colour can endure, and I shouldn't have to continuously defend myself, my race, or my people.
But sadly, that's our life. Personally, I hate confrontation because I'm not very good at it. Really — I fold like a cheap suit. But when it comes to defending myself, my culture and my people — a warrior rises inside me with a shield and spear ready Koori dating sites battle. So, when you're calling someone out, don't beat around the bush. And look, I don't have all the right words or advice but getting involved with someone who disrespects your race is something to be wary of, because a romantic relationship isn't just mutual attraction and shared interests.
You're letting someone into your culture, allowing them to see your world, and know your identity, which is really special.
ABC Everyday helps you navigate life's challenges and choices so you can stay on top of the things that matter to you. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the lands where we live, learn and work. ABC Everyday. Print content Print with images and other media. Print text only. Print Cancel. But dating someone outside of my race makes that problem go away. It makes me question my race But before I start getting jiggy with a vanilla slice, my thought bubble bursts and I catch myself thinking, is he attracted to black girls?
Do others worry that their new dude might be unintentionally a little bit racist? My experiences with Caucasian men have been interesting, to put it lightly. Not wanting to take any chances, I decided to get the hell out of there.
address. Whose job is it to speak up when racism rears Koori dating sites head? When you date within and outside your culture. I was brought up by six strong women. This is how it's shaped me. Looking for love in the Kimberley. Meeting the mob in the Kimberley comes with a few extra rules.
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